Marriages Only for Money Bring No Happiness
Abstract: Nowadays a large amount of young ladies in China are driven by their modern value that money talks. Indeed, money is very important, especially in this practical world full of material desires. But as a matter of fact, money doesn’t mean everything. Sometimes it even becomes the primary culprit of misfortunes in people’s lives, not to mention the tragedies brought by marriages for money instead of love. Mostly, it is the young ladies that always lose themselves in money when making decisions on choosing husbands. And the most ironic thing is that it is also the young ladies who suffer a lot from their own marriages only for the sake of money. A marriage based on money is definitely brings no happiness.
摘要：当今中国很多女性都受到金钱至上的观念的影响。当然，在当今物欲横流的现实世界里金钱是相当重要的，但实际上金钱并不意味着一切。有时金钱甚至会成为人类不幸的源泉，更不必说那些为了金钱而不是因为爱而组成的婚姻所带来的悲剧。大多数情况下都是女性在选择丈夫的时候容易受金钱的蛊惑而迷失方向。更为讽刺的是，通常在为了钱而结合的婚姻里受尽苦楚的恰恰就是这些女性。以钱为感情之基础的婚姻必然是不会有幸福的。
Key words: females, marriage, money, happiness
Nowadays in a world full of material desires, people tend to be too flighty to resist the lust, especially many modern beautiful females. They hold that marrying a rich man is definitely a wise choice since the whole world worships money. Wu
Bo, the 55-year-old mother of a 23-year-old unwed son, was taken aback when Ma Nuo, 22, a model from Beijing said on China's most popular TV reality program Don't Bother Me: ”I'd rather weep in a BMW than smile on the bicycle of my true love.” “I don't like to generalize, but Ma's words show that young women today worship money. They won't get married unless their boyfriends have a house and a car. They're so mercenary,” Wu says.
Money, to be honest, does in one way or another can be related to a more comfortable life and an ostentatious display. However, it is not the equivalent of some special things particuarly in human beings’ life such as friendship, love and happiness. What’s more astonishing, when marriage is closely tied up with money other than love, the essence of marriage changes in an unhappy way.
Firstly, marriage for money is like an unworthy transaction for those young beauties. What the majority of the rich men really want from the beauties is thrill, satisfaction and vanity. They love to have gorgeous ladies in company in public and feel proud to show their charming wifes to guests through which they will manage to draw the envious sights of others immediately. For the rich men, possessing both wealth and beauty is definately can be defined as a great success. They don’t care the money because their cost on women is too small to be significent compared with their own assets. But what the women substantially pay is good youth, as well as a great chance to choose happiness. Time flies. When finally wrinkles crawl onto those wifes’ face, the husbands will gradually lose interest in them for in the first beginning, it was their pretty appearance that counts. Then the marrige turns fragil.
Secondly, marriage for money leads to wifes’ spiritual barrenness. They marry someone in the name of money and materialism, though perhaps they do attach somewhat importance to the rich men’s personality or appearance and so on at the first place. But mostly they get their eyes on the wealth or backgrounds of the men who are already inscribed into their lists of ideal husbands. They can get money or perhaps even higher social status from their wealthy husbands. They seem satisfied because they manage to draw more people’s attention and feed their vanity by showing off in the presence of relatives and friends. But what really hides behind the shining and proud masks is their emptiness which sometimes like a fathomable vally, making them trembling from coldness and darkness. Their husbands are usually busy in making money, obviously. While the wifes have to suffer loneliness and bear the wealthy loveless marriage. Worse still, the wifes figure out at last that the valuable jewels, the expensive cosmetics and the luxurious life find no way to fill the painful spiritual void. The marrige seems sour.
Last but not least, marriage for money instead of love brings misfortune to the so-called perfect match, the seemingly perfect family. Once the young wife’s wealthy husband finds that what his wife really cares is his money when they married, trouble hangs over the family. Or when the husband finds that his wife is actually a pillow with an embroidered case, a beautiful figure with no insights, a dark mist befalls the family. Surely the husband begins to look at his gorgeous wife differently. And he turns to care not at all his wife except that she, or to be more exact, only her pretty apperance can be valued as a part of his pride in front of others. They may express their happiness in public by every means, but their deteriorated relationship is hard to avoid in the long run. Gradually the couple will
have nothing to share with each other and they will find that they are not the right one for each other. It is very likely that the husband will betray his wife as a vengeance. And the consequence will be that the wife may be indirectly abandoned by her husband through his affairs with another woman or even worse—the marriage may end with a divorce which will bring negtive effects on their childern (if they have).
Young ladies are always charmed by the idea of marrying a rich husband, imaging that being a rich wife is the equivalent of living a happy life. But the truth is, not every lady are so lucky to find a charming prince with a handsome face, a nice personality and a wealthy background as well. What you should do is to keep a calm mind and always be rational to distinguish reality between daydream. Most important of all, think twice before you decide to marry a rich man whom you don’t really love, because your happiness is right in your own hands.
